Online Couple Therapy for Neurodiverse Couples (ADHD & Autism Focus)

I specialize in working with neurodiverse couples—often with ADHD or Autism in one or both partners—who feel stuck in painful communication cycles, burnout, or resentment and want support re-establishing emotional safety and connection.

Many of the couples I work with are high-achieving outside the home but overwhelmed inside their relationship. I also work with couples navigating anxiety or OCD when nervous system differences are central to the relationship dynamic.

Provider Identification & Licensure

I am a Licensed Clinical Psychologist (PhD), licensed in Washington since 2013 (License #PY60410647). I provide telehealth couple therapy and am authorized to practice in the following states:

Alabama, Arizona, Arkansas, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, District of Columbia, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, West Virginia, Wisconsin.

Who I Commonly Work With

I often work with couples in which one or both partners have a diagnosis or suspected diagnosis of ADHD or Autism (sometimes called neurodivergent or mixed-neurotype couples). Some couples are also navigating OCD, anxiety, or trauma histories that influence nervous system activation and emotional reactivity.

Often both partners are high achieving at work but struggling to manage the demands of family life and the relationship at home. Many are stuck in a pattern where one partner is over-functioning—tending to the relationship, household, or caregiving responsibilities—leading to burnout and resentment, while the other partner feels rejected, criticized, or controlled, leading to hurt feelings and avoidance.

Services I Offer

I provide therapy for couples who are feeling stuck in unhelpful conflict patterns, experiencing burnout or resentment in their current roles, and longing for the connection and ease they once felt together.

For couples navigating imbalance in household or caregiving labor, I integrate principles from the Fair Play method to support a more equitable division of responsibilities and mental load.

  • If you are a neurodiverse couple navigating ADHD or Autism in one or both partners, start here.

  • If you are navigating anxiety or OCD that impacts relationship functioning, start here.

  • If you are seeking support rebalancing responsibilities while improving emotional safety and communication, start here.

Strong Match Indicators

This work is often a strong match if:

  • You’ve tried to make changes on your own but still end up in cycles of escalation, defensiveness, and shutdown

  • One partner feels chronically overburdened while the other feels constantly criticized

  • You want support healing from past hurts while improving emotional safety and trust

  • You feel misunderstood around differences in processing, sensory experiences, or communication styles

  • You worry that if nothing changes, resentment or emotional distance will continue to grow

  • You prefer online telehealth sessions

When This May Not Be the Best Fit

This work may not be the best fit if:

  • You are seeking therapy to support a planned separation or divorce

  • There is ongoing intimate partner violence or coercive control

  • One partner is unwilling to participate in couple therapy

  • You are looking for crisis services, court-involved treatment, or insurance-based care

If you’re unsure, a brief consultation can help clarify fit.

Therapeutic Approach & Style

My approach to couple therapy is primarily informed by Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy (IBCT), along with additional training in neurodiversity-affirming couple therapy. I am also a certified facilitator of the Fair Play method and bring this expertise to my work with couples.

I help couples understand and appreciate their natural differences, including nervous system responses, executive functioning differences, and differences in needs or processing styles. Together, we identify and shift communication patterns that are keeping you stuck.

Sessions emphasize slowing down reactivity, increasing mutual understanding, and supporting both partners in taking responsibility for how they contribute to the relationship pattern—without blame or pathologizing. We work with real moments of conflict to build more sustainable ways of relating.

Practical Details

  • I work exclusively with couples

  • Sessions are offered via telehealth to clients located in states where I am authorized to practice (see licensure section above)

  • Services are private pay or out-of-network

  • Hours include daytime and evening availability

Plain-Language Summary

In simple terms: I help neurodiverse couples understand how their nervous systems and communication differences interact, reduce resentment and escalation, and rebuild emotional safety and partnership.

Clear Next Step

If this sounds like your relationship, contact me to schedule an initial consultation to determine whether this approach feels like a good fit.